“Similarities can bring two people together. However what keeps them so is the way the differences are handled.”

EA

Stuff I’ve been reading recently – #3

The Code of the Extraordinary Mind: 10 Unconventional Laws to Redefine Your Life and Succeed On Your Own Terms
by Vishen Lakhiani

This book teaches you to think like some of the greatest non-conformist minds of our era, to question, challenge, hack, and create new rules for your life so you can define success on your own terms.

The Code of the Extraordinary Mind, a New York Times bestseller, is a blueprint of laws to break us free from the shackles of an ordinary life. It makes a case that everything we know about the world is shaped by conditioning and habit. And thus, most people live their lives based on limiting rules and outdated beliefs about pretty much everything―love, work, money, parenting, sex, health, and more―which they inherit and pass on from generation to generation.

But what if you could remove these outdated ideas and start anew? What would your life look like if you could forget the rules of the past, and redefine what happiness, purpose, and success mean for you?

The Inevitable: Understanding the 12 Technological Forces That Will Shape Our Future
by Kevin Kelly

From one of our leading technology thinkers and writers, a guide through the twelve technological imperatives that will shape the next thirty years and transform our lives

Much of what will happen in the next thirty years is inevitable, driven by technological trends that are already in motion. In this fascinating, provocative new book, Kevin Kelly provides an optimistic road map for the future, showing how the coming changes in our lives—from virtual reality in the home to an on-demand economy to artificial intelligence embedded in everything we manufacture—can be understood as the result of a few long-term, accelerating forces. Kelly both describes these deep trends—interacting, cognifying, flowing, screening, accessing, sharing, filtering, remixing, tracking, and questioning—and demonstrates how they overlap and are codependent on one another. These larger forces will completely revolutionize the way we buy, work, learn, and communicate with each other.

By understanding and embracing them, says Kelly, it will be easier for us to remain on top of the coming wave of changes and to arrange our day-to-day relationships with technology in ways that bring forth maximum benefits. Kelly’s bright, hopeful book will be indispensable to anyone who seeks guidance on where their business, industry, or life is heading—what to invent, where to work, in what to invest, how to better reach customers, and what to begin to put into place—as this new world emerges.

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“Normal is just when the bizarre gets critical mass.”

EA

Will we…? Ever?

How long before you run out of empathy? Or kindness? How long before you run out of dignity or connection or ability to lead?

Will you run out?

Sometimes we act like these are scarce, to be dispensed little by little, as if there is a limited inventory.

The truth is that they replenish themselves, but only when used. A posture of generosity. I call this posture a graceful one.

Lately, I felt like I’m losing this posture. I focused on my needs more than usual. It leaves me with a bitter taste of sadness. What I remind myself is that to be generous to others is one of the most human acts that available to me… to us.

It’s our birthright to be graceful. This world makes it available for us to open ourselves to this opportunity and make connections that feed our souls.

I hope you will.

“Hope is like a muscle; and like every muscle in continual use, it needs rest.”

EA

Stuff I’ve been reading recently – #2

The Global Minotaur: America, the True Origins of the Financial Crisis and the Future of the World Economy (Economic Controversies)
by Yanis Varoufakis

In this remarkable and provocative book, Yanis Varoufakis explodes the myth that financialisation, ineffectual regulation of banks, greed and globalisation were the root causes of the global economic crisis. Rather, they are symptoms of a much deeper malaise which can be traced all the way back to the Great Crash of 1929, then on through to the 1970s: the time when a ‘Global Minotaur’ was born. Just as the Athenians maintained a steady flow of tributes to the Cretan beast, so the ‘rest of the world’ began sending incredible amounts of capital to America and Wall Street. Thus, the Global Minotaur became the ‘engine’ that pulled the world economy from the early 1980s to 2008.

Colorless Tsukuru Tazaki and His Years of Pilgrimage
| by Haruki Murakami

An instant #1 New York Times Bestseller, Colorless Tsukuru Tazaki and His Years of Pilgrimage is the remarkable story of a young man haunted by a great loss; of dreams and nightmares that have unintended consequences for the world around us; and of a journey into the past that is necessary to mend the present. Here Haruki Murakami—one of the most revered voices in literature today—gives us a story of love, friend­ship, and heartbreak for the ages.

Sweat Equity: Inside the New Economy of Mind and Body (Bloomberg)
| by Jason Kelly

Sweat Equity goes inside the multi-billion dollar trend toward endurance sports and fitness to discover who’s driving it, who’s paying for it, and who’s profiting. Bloomberg’s Jason Kelly, author of The New Tycoons, profiles the participants, entrepreneurs, and investors at the center of this movement, exploring this phenomenon in which a surge of people—led by the most affluent—are becoming increasingly obsessed with looking and feeling better. Through in-depth looks inside companies and events from New York Road Runners to Tough Mudder and Ironman, Kelly profiles the companies and people aiming to meet the demands of these consumers, and the traits and strategies that made them so successful.

In a modern world filled with anxiety, pressure, and competition, people are spending more time and money than ever before to soothe their minds and tone their bodies, sometimes pushing themselves to the most extreme limits. Even as obesity rates hit an all-time high, the most financially successful among us are collectively spending billions each year on apparel, gear, and entry fees. Sweat Equity charts the rise of the movement, through the eyes of competitors and the companies that serve them. Through conversations with business-people, many driven by their own fitness obsessions, and first-hand accounts of the sports themselves, Kelly delves into how the movement is taking shape.

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“Important things can change in your life but, the most important thing never changes: Being able to set priorities.”

EA

Bitter

Bitter is such a beautiful solo album by Meshell Ndegeocello from ’99; inspired by a torturous romantic relationship. The song “Bitter” surges with emotions with minimal lyrics that are shaded with regret and remorse.

The whole album is amazingly the most personal… However, Meshell’s subtle songcraft is making it an emotionally meditative journey.

This CD album was one of my favorite pieces of the collection I left at my hometown. Definitely a pearl.

You push me away bitterly
My apologies fall on your deaf ears
You curse my name bitterly
And now your eyes they look at me bitterly
I stand ashamed amidst my foolish pride
‘Cause for us, there’ll be no more
For us, there’ll be no more
And now my eyes look at you bitterly
Bitterly bitterly

“Prematurely giving up is a big problem. A more exhausting problem is not knowing when to let it go.”

EA

Over-modesty

There is something off-putting about over-modesty.

People will come to see you when you invite them.
They will listen to you when you talk.
They will give you compliments when they realise something amazing about you.
They will give their time and attention to you when they see something in YOU.

Don’t EVER say or look sorry about it. Don’t walk the sideways and find excuses for them not to be there with you, not to feel what they are feeling about you, not to invest their time in you.

When you belittle yourself, you also belittle them; their choice to be with you, their time spent on you, the attention they have towards you…

Instead, accept it, and shine.

If you really want to say something about it or show gratitude; thank them.

“Thank you” is stronger than “I’m sorry”.